Elder abuse??? or?
Don't know what to do?
well as of March this year, family across street was approved
to do Home care for me thru IHSS. problem is the daughter was one
on record. i was awarded 20 hrs a month at that time. worked fine
1st few months, as convent and close.
I'm terminal w/HepC n a shut-in past 3 yrs so dire NEED care,
well did physical and IHSS gave 44 hrs a month which I felt was
great. The family would take me shopping for food IF i was able or
they brought me stuff I needed.
problem is wasn't putting in but 3-4 hrs and kept saying they
would, they just busy.
meanwhile august, the daughter brought a brand new puppy to
play w/my dog as poor thing gets lonely when I'm i'll in bed. Was
to be a playmate while she worked a job at taco stand in town. Now
her dad n mom did all the work when they did work. and the gal
never took the dog home one night, so i ask for food n whatever,
well she brought huge bones, NOT food. and only one time she even
took the pup for awhile.
so few months back, I say, "well guess the pup is mine, as
you've never feed, played, provided for so now its mine". she said
" Ok but when the breaders/friends come over they wanna visit it" I
agreed.
meantime they all have problems, she 's pregant, quits work in
town and dad had heart attack (stress) then son (brother 19) so far
be it from me to demand much less absoluty necessity.
Things calmed some this last month so cpl times I tried to
talk to them, saying they will start doin my work, and care more
for me, and every times never happened, I even gave them a blank
calendar so they track their hrs, not for my benifit as i know, but
thought they would see they were only workin 3-4 hrs per week vs
the 11 gettin paid for.
now im a total shut-in and a lot of time i'll in bed and they
never once cleaned my toilet, or washed my dishes, yes a few times
vacumed, cleaned out fridge and lots good stuff, BUT now dad gets
mad when I told him i need to share those hrs with another person
so i have help when i need it, and it will help them, as I never
saw them weekends past 3 months or so. he right out refuses!
Its ALL or nothing!!! well i was shocked, didn't know what to say.
well they never came over so I called the other lady to come as i
needed stuff. well Dad saw the lady here and got hot, later came
over threw me keys said its over, and daughter went to snatch the
pup outta my arms, after 5 months with me!, Sheriff gets called, 2
1/2 hrs later office came in 10:30pm and talked, then went across
street n talked, now cause dads mad he LIED to the officer and said
it was daughters dog. HURT OMG im so broken now from past
devistation, its last lap and I dont need this stress.
make it really worse, since March, i've been giving then
TONS of things, as i must get rid of all possible, I just ask to
save my jewels n treasures and most precious things to me. I have
no one for many years now, no family no kids, no loved ones, and
being isolated I shut out the world when most couldn't deal with
the death factor.
furniture, bedding, lamps, crystal, jewelry, crafts, kitchen
appliances and TONS n tons stuff… and they just flat out
took advantage of me
n LIED bout the pup i loved so dearly past 5 months 24/7
knowing that it will possibly devastate me!
I simply in so much grief, n shock i don't know what to
do
im ssi low income and i paid/cared/boarded that baby/pup and I
get this crap????
been trying to list some my old memories since childhood, on
etsy and sold a few when i feel i can be active, then also they
took stuff to mail, now i'll again, stressed to max and past week
no help or anything so closed down site "vacation" mode till
figure out next step?
also mom couldn't go on record as care taker as she not legal
for another 2 yrs when daughter turns 21? beats me i havent a clue.
They were like a family at first, even made me a 66th H/B eve with
cake n baloons! Touched my heart. then to turn into vultures? or
whatever … Victimised once again, can't handle or take any
more.
life sucks and my only hope is that the Good Lord WILL take me
home soon.
on my good days i use my brain productively as much as
possible. Helps the stress level and my health as some my personal
stuff has found good homes to be passed on. All the rest i care
less about now and why giving to them to use or sell or whatever..
sad.
That pup was so needed n loved, gave my baby something to play
with and also makes me get up and care for something, and get tons
of love from something depending on me. I'm a basket case…
im in SHOCK